I spent part of my holiday break reading Oliver Burkeman’s Meditations for Mortals. Burkeman, author of Four Thousand Weeks, has a preoccupation with the finite nature of our existence. His books contend with the universal limitation that governs human lives, the one thing we can’t control: our mortality. It occurred to me that this looming deadline tends to influence people in one of two directions.
In some cases, it drives us to push ourselves beyond our physical and emotional limits in an attempt to beat the clock and get in as much as possible. This is the carpe diem mentality. Knowing the clock is ticking, we feel an imperative to pack our schedules, say yes to everything, and waste no time.
But it can also have a different effect. Faced with the impossibility of fitting everything in, we might find ourselves slowing down and taking stock of what’s really important to us. Instead of trying to get the most of everything, we narrow our focus to getting the best of our particular corners of life. This mindset prioritizes investing intentionally in the people and things that matter most.
I have been influenced by both motivations, and I think both have their place. The first creates a sense of urgency that reminds me not to wait to live the life I’ve imagined. The second relieves me of the pressure to see everything in my path as something that I must contend with. It is a reminder that not everything is my task, and gives me permission to let go of things I don’t need. This brings a sense of tranquility and calm that activates a centered approach to life.
The answer is not to follow one path or the other. Rather, we must recognize the benefits and challenges each mindset provides, and allow both to have their moments. Be relentless in pursuit of your plans and dreams, yes, but don’t neglect the joys of the present moment. Fill your days with activity, but also make time to sit back, relax, and appreciate the simple pleasure of being alive.
As you look forward to the coming year, consider integrating both of these mindsets. Counterbalance the urgent desire to seize the day with contemplative, purpose-driven reflection. And remember: though we may be mere mortals, there is always enough time to live well.
If you’re interested in integrating mindfulness, intention, and success planning into your leadership practice, send me an email at ralph@getemergent.com.
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