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Ralph Simone
Trusting Our Instinct
What is it about our instinct or intuitive nudges – those feelings that occur when our brains draw on past experiences and external cues so quickly that our consciousness doesn’t have time to register them – that we just don’t trust? Is it the lack of hard data or could it be our fear of…
Integration and Focus, Not Balance
We hear more and more about balance and the balanced life these days. But be careful – this is an illusion, a trap, something that will have you frustrated most of the time. And balance may not even be what we’re seeking. Much of the problem stems from our definition of balance and what we…
Finish
What is it about finishing? I find myself asking that question a lot lately as my son finishes his junior year of high school. While it is not always easy to get started, it seems that many people have even more trouble finishing. Many of us are in a hurry to leave whatever we’re doing…
Detaching From Outcomes
“What? How can it be valuable if I don’t get the outcome I want?” I remember my first reaction to what appeared to be this outrageous and unrealistic idea of not being attached to the outcome. How can that be? How can I achieve my goals and stay focused if I am not attached to…
Too Much Data, Not Enough Information
We are overwhelmed and consistently inundated with so much data that we overthink almost everything. We find ourselves trapped in our heads – virtually disconnected from our bodies, and consequently not engaged in enough feeling or intuiting as part of our process of interacting and deciding. We find ourselves somewhere other than the present. And…
Why Team’s Don’t Work
It starts with the Declaration of Independence, moves to the Protestant work ethic, and is followed by Hoover’s “rugged individualism.” Let’s not forget class ranking, top sales reps, and all of the other things that focus on individual effort, achievement, and an overall emphasis on independence rather than interdependence. It helps me understand the statement…
The Inner Pilot Light
Have you ever had the pilot light of your stove or hot water tank go out? What did you do? If you’re like me, you initially called your father, but ultimately you lit a match to reignite the flame. This reminds me of a saying that a former boss used to share regarding problem solving,…
Simplifying the Complicated
I am often surprised at how I can complicate things, whether in business or life. We get so busy planning and doing that we sometimes forget why we are doing it in the first place. There is so much to do, so many places to get to, so much to accumulate, that sometimes we are…
You’re Only Late for One Moment
Recently I was on my way to a lunch appointment with a client and didn’t realize until it was too late that a major route that I usually take was shut down. Being average at best with directions (although I do ask!), my initial thought was “oh great – now I’m going to be late.”…